Anger Management Stress | Reprogram Your Thinking

Did anyone ever teach you how to deal with anger?  I'll bet you that the only time you had any type of anger management education is after you have already caused emotional harm and maybe even physical harm to yourself or another person from betting very upset. 

Learning how to deal with anger is one of many valuable 'self help' subjects that you will not find in your high school classes or even in most college and career institutions.  Although one of the most important practices to learn in order to have a more fulfilling and less stressful life, we likely end up teaching anger management to ourselves.

And so, if you want to be happier then doesn't it make sense to understand, manage, and express your anger before something negative comes out of a negative situation? 

As a society we are conditioned to keep a lot of feelings buried inside, even on a casual contact basis.  To give you an idea of what I mean, think about your knee-jerk response to anyone whenever they ask you “How are you doing?”  The socially acceptable answer and one that is hard-coded into your head to say is: “I'm fine, thanks.”

Now let's say that something is indeed bothering you, and it is quite obvious, what if the person asks you next: “Is there something wrong?”  Of course you will say “Nothing” and not even think twice about it, because that is your knee-jerk reaction.  You have been programmed to “keep your cool” by not showing any emotions that may make you vulnerable.

Anger Management Stress | Obvious signs

You may not want to admit it, but many of you already know that at least one point of your life, you have had a problem with anger management.  But there are many people out there who are not quite sure if they have an issue with anger.  To help you find out, below are some indicators:

1.  When you do get angry, you do not get over it for a long time.  It may last until you explode sometimes, or the anger may even stay inside of you, to fuel the fires of your rage.  If you have heard of people who “hold a grudge” then those are the ones that I am referring to here.

Do you have a tendency to hold grudges?  Can you think of more than one person right now, whom you have not talked to in a long time that you are still angry with?

2.  You spend most of the time feeling frustrated and irritable.  You get disappointed as well as unsatisfied about almost anything in life. But with all of these negative feelings you have, you do not in fact get very angry.

Anger may be an unacceptable emotion to you, whereas frustration and irritability seem more acceptable, thus keeping you in a constant state of unfulfilled in life.

3.  Another sign of having an anger management problem is if you never get angry.  You just seem to be void of experiencing that emotion.  There are times when you know you should be getting angry, but the feeling just doesn't seem to come.  Your anger seems very mild or watered down, and you never are able to release it.

4.  Last but not least, you may have an anger management stress problem if you tend to be very sarcastic or cynical not only about yourself, but everyone and the world around you.  Your time around people is spent on judging other people and making constant “jokes” that have very negative connotations around them.

If people would just stop keeping their feelings bottled up inside and letting everyone else think how their emotions “should be”, then life would be so much easier to deal with.  We can create happy and healthy relationships and share more positive experiences. 

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